Quickie Post - How Annoying Are You!?!

So, as I was coming in to work this morning, this dude approached me.

"Sweetie, you are so beautiful. Please tell me what do I have to do to get your number?"

I gave it to him. Although, he was not my type. I figured, why not?

He was 5 ft 7 (read: short) and he looked a bit older.

"I'm a personal trainer at this gym (right next to my job) and I think seeing your pretty face just made my day to help me train these richy richy folks..."

His name was Raheem. He asked how old I was.

"23"

"You don't look a day over 15."

Hmmmm....
(is it me to get weirded out by guys that try to talk to me but remark about how young i look? like...if i look young, why did you try to talk to me...)

This was at 8:30am.

9:28am. I get a call from a weird number.
10:12am. Another call, same number.
12:27pm. Another call
12:46pm. Another call.

I go to lunch at 1pm. I called the number back.

It was Raheem. He picked up the phone saying his name was Mark.

hunh??????

I said...I'm Nina..

I think I have the wrong number. You sound cute. Do you want to talk to me anyway?

No. (obviously annoyed)Why were you calling me so much?

Don't flatter yourself. I got the wrong number, ma!

Whatever. *click*

I had to hang up because I was just sooooooooooooo over it at that point.

like seriously, wtf?

You Can't HANDLE the Truth!

Kappa Guy was relentless in his pursuit this weekend.

I was loving the attention of course, but I'm not the type of girl to lead someone on. Its not fair.

I text him:
I don't think you really like me. I think you want some booty and that's it. Its really okay. I'm just operating in the spirit of honesty.

He said:
Lol, its ok

I said:
Thank you. I guess I will call/text when I want to go down that road. I want to be closer to God. I'm just looking for something with a lil more substance.

He said:
Whoa, I didn't say that I agreed with u. I just thought that u was weird for saying that. I liked that we had a common interest with the writing thing and I was just wishing I had someone who was doing the same thing as I was so I was more motivated.

I said:
Your "conversation" was like 98% sexual...yet I'm supposed to believe you just wanted a writing partner?

He said:
Sorry, I always say stupid stuff like that, it's a habit...lol. But nevermind, I cud see u don't wanna chill like that. It's kool.

Ugh! I hate this text talk...this man was in the top 10 percentile of his class! And he texts like this..boooo!

Secondly, I am weird for saying it but I just don't have an affinity for the game-playing. I have no game. I put everything right out there and maybe that's my problem.

I just think its silly. If its going to be about sex. Let it be about sex. Don't text me to death about how my day is when you just want me to pencil you in for doggy at around 10.

Speaking of...I was cleaning out my night stand and I picked up a baggy full of condoms. I almost shed a tear. It was under a box of makeup that I have used in months...I checked the expiration dates on them just for dramatic purpose.

But, ummmm and I total loser or what??
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The Date I Couldn't Break

I went to church today for the first time in 3 years.

The notion of going was really ummm...scary?


Not sure if that was the right word. But...

I woke up and looked at the clock...8am. Eh...I could sleep a little more. I woke up again it said 9:39am.
At the same time, someone called me. I looked at my phone. 10:39am?

What!?!

Service starts at 11am.

I turned on the radio - what us cable-less folks do.

Politics...politics..blah blah...

I only listen to WCBS- AM. Let me get up and shower just in case. I get back...politics....blah blah It's Daylight Savings Time, everybody...wha???!????

Its 11am..I'm rushing around the house. I dash. I really like the praise and worship part of church. That's my favorite part.

I get there just as the preacher stepped to the pulpit to deliver the message.

Let me say this...this church was affiliated with the one I left a while ago. They believe in express service. There's a 9am and 11am service. If you go to the 11am service, you're out by 1. At 11:40, he was preaching...so...there ya go.
Anywhosies...the message was about confrontation. It came from Matthew 18:15-17.

(Here are my notes from the service)
Everyone loses if you win the argument but you lose the relationship.

Don't air your issues with people who have nothing to do with it.

Our attitude must remain in a spirit of caring.

Sometimes you need a referee...
1. Must be spiritually mature - must understand what God says
2. Must be prayerful and not gossipers
3. Must be able to correct you and you listen

This doctrine is the basis of church discipline. Discipline is aligning someone in the way they should go not grabbing them and slamming them...

Anytime you have 1 member the church is imperfect. There will always be issues if you have people because people are imperfect.

We need to learn how to disagree without being disagreeable

Today I decide to stop chasing skinny rabbits. Stuff that doesn't matter I'm leaving alone.

When presenting your facts about a disagreement...use
SBI
Situation - leave out your feelings.
- I walked in the room
Behavior - this is the behavior I
saw.
- this is what I observed
Don't judge their motives
I don't have the ability to judge motives.
Impact - not that it had on you but on me
-no accusing,

So...its the end of the message and he calls those who are unsaved to the altar. Then he calls those who have backslidden. Then he calls those who have left and are finding their way back to God. He says that he knows that there are those who have been hurt by church and church people but God is calling you today. He's calling you because He loves you. You've walked away from God but he's right here waiting for you.

And I just felt compelled to go to the altar. I took 2 steps and was bawling...I was crying so hard, he was asking me questions I couldn't speak. My throat was hurting. It was crazy. I'm not an emotional person to be crying in public.

He was like. I know you. I said, yes, you know my mother, Min. XX XXXX from CIF Church. He was like "Praise God...the last time I saw you you were off to college and now you've come back full circle." He hugged me so tight and I was crying even harder.

He prayed for me and I just wanted to fall into a little ball.

Then some minister lady took me into a room, had me fill out a form, read some scripture with me and prayed with me.

I went back to the main church and I saw some familiar faces.

This chick Shina...omg...she was such a nasty person. I worked with her until she got fired. She was like..Oh I was praying for you. I was like..Heffa don't lie, in my head. I was like..oh thanks...good to see you. Gotta go! I ran into my cousin. He was really the only one I was genuinely happy to see. His mom was there. She was like, "Why didn't you tell me you were coming?" I was looking at her like....I haven't spoken to you in 6 years! I ran into this guy Mike. I used to babysit his kids. He taught me how to drive. His son is just as tall as me now. It was weird. My cousin introduced me to his lady friend. She's so cute. They say she's met me before. Mike was like...you probably knew her as a kid. She's so adultish now. Lol

Then, I ran into this girl. She was the closest thing to a big sister I've ever had. I loved her so fiercely. I'm not sure what happened but we just parted ways.
Everyone was looking at me. Mainly, because I know I've changed. Not just in appearance, my whole demeanor is different. I'm a lot stronger than the kid they knew.

They had a lot of questions. I didn't want to answer them so, I was like...good seeing you guys. Gotta go! I don't want people in my business like that.

That's my new thing until I can wrap my head around what's going on...no close personal relationships with co workers or at church. It gets to be too much. I don't want to get entangled in politics. I've just been gossiped about too much. It kills your spirit. That's why I've been blogging a lot more. All that alone time makes you think.

I go to work. I speak to everyone. I do my work. I go to lunch alone. I come back. I finish my day. I go to my 2nd job.

I want the same thing. I go to church. I get the word. I speak. I go home.

Of course..its not going to be that way because people have questions. People have curiosities. I just want to take baby steps.

The girl who prayed for me asked me if I wanted an accountability partner. Someone in church who can help you stay on track when you feel your faith wavering.

I politely declined.


The only person I can be accountable to right now is God.

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Where Are Your Parents, Pt 2?

So, I was walking out of the train on Thursday. It was 11pm.
This kid was coming into the train station. Like 10 kids came outta no where and started wailing on him. It didn't look like he was hurt. The attendant called the cops. The kids ran off. He went outside looking for them.

2 seconds later, it happened again. To another kid.

I was very tired and wasn't quite sure if I was seeing things or if it was really happening.

Plus, it was bizarre because I had my iPod blaring Common's new album and was feeling all good on the inside about black men and the sexiness Common holds in just one pinky. Then...boom.

Freaky stuff man.

Immediately though, the iPod went in the pocket and I was highly alert. I'm the same height as those kids. They could easily mistake me for one of their peers. How do I look getting beat up by like 9th graders? Lol

One of the older ladies that was next to me when it happened said it looked they were playing. Poppy cock! When I was 16, I got robbed by 3 people in broad daylight. Yoked up from behind and they ran my pockets. The man who saw it said we looked like we were playing, too.

What I want to know is - what is the definition of playing? Because where I come from, whenever there is any inclination of violence, it was serious. Unless it was dodge ball. We called that reflex training...ha!
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How Do We Know You're not Crazy?

I had the distinct pleasure of meeting with YW and 2 of her friends.

They are amazing!

So, before I could meet them, I almost got hit by a bus to go to the train. Well, the trains weren't running from Utica Ave to Jay St. So,I took another bus...a 15 minute ride took 35. I get on the train to catch another train and I'm freaking out like....Damn! I hate being late. I hate people waiting for me....

To my surprise and delight, they just started shopping before I got there...yay!

YW is so beautiful and sweet as pie!

And she's apart of the short girls crew! Yay!!! She's also a member of the Curvy Girls United movement...I'm so jealous of her small waist and hips! Ugh!

Her friends were hilarious especially "l" who was basically full of random questions....Like...what do you write about on your blog? is it like a daily diary? Well, how do you know she's not crazy, YW? She could have something in her bag!

Hilarity.

The 4 of us turned 34th street upside down. I want to list the stores we went to...but we went everywhere!

Ladies and gentlemen...a milestone!

I bought a dress from Forever 21. Being apart of th CGU movement, you know that certain stores are for accessories only. I block out that they have clothes because I don't even want the inkling to feel guilty about not being able to fit them....but there was one dress...beautiful orange maxi dress.

YW said if it were a Large, she would get it. She's a size smaller than me and so I thought...hell, if it could fit her, why not me? I took the plunge and tried it on. It looked great on both of us- our skin tones are very similar. We had to get it. We trapezed our way further up 34th street to Strawberry which was a bust for clothes. I did buy 2 Converse-type sneakers - they were $10!! This was after YW gave me a look for trying on these killer heels...they were so cute, though..lol. It brings the "flats" count to 5..I have to give up my dirty white Chucks... :-(

We went and got food because seriously, any power shopper knows...you can really shop til ya drop.

I re-discovered the Frosty. YW's friend "I" said that her Chipotle food was too wet. We took pictures in the bottom part of Wendy's that had the most disgusting bathroom and the entire floor smelled like a dirty mop.

"I" wanted to take pictures with a Starbuck's cup in her hand to make the Africans at home jealous..lol...but she settled for pics in front of a Mc Donald's...hahaha....

We tackled Rainbow. YW got some super cute jeans..I bought the same pair of jeans she was wearing...and a long tank so I can feel like a hipster. Lol.

Our feet were hurting so so so so bad. We chilled out in Starbucks for a moment and then bought their tickets back to DC which "I" was trying to pressure me into going back with them...

I really wanted to go but I couldn't. I have plans tomorrow, I just can't break.

All in all, we had soooo much fun...it was like hanging out with an old friend.

Stay tuned...Liz and I are going to road trip it down to DC for a day next month. Yay!!!

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Kappa Guy Makes Another Appearance?

He text me last week. Randomly.

I miss you.

Errrrrppppppp?!

I think I might've text that to him. I've been popping off hard at the mouth lately. Indiscriminately, as well...

And so, during our ladies gchat conference today, I told Liz I wanted to trick someone into taking me out on a date this weekend. (Purely for comic relief- on the tricking part, that is...) He was the first person I thought of. I text him...and flirting ensued.

Ahhhhh...KG, I forgot about you...and your words...

He says all the right things really...

I said:
"Damn you Kappa men. You are so charming! :)"

He said:
"Lol, don't put me in any categories...I cud call u stunning and charming as well ms beauty queen...lol. U cud be trouble... But I like trouble anyway ;-)"

I said:
"My humblest apologies. I don't think I'm stunning so I'd probably just laugh or blush...you don't know if I'm trouble by now? I need to try harder"

He said:
"Lol, I already know u are. U can seduce me like ur gay friends say u do to them. U can talk me out of my pants, I better watch out. One look from those eyes and a switch of that nice ass of yours and im finished... ;-)U'd have me there everyday begging u to let me in...lol."

(Abt a year ago, this gay dude was like he'd hit it. I told him abt it and recently a couple of girls have been coming on a little too strongly)

I said:
"Wow, all of that, hunh? Well...I'm tempted to flex my muscle...but nah...I only use my power for good."

He said:
"Lol, yeah. I better chill before you have my face all up in it lickin ya stuff tonight. My tongue will be full of clit... ;-)."

I said:
"And here I thought it was innocent flirting...fancy that?"

Sometimes a girl needs her ego stroked...4 months without sex, she needs other things stroked, too.


I'll be good. I promise.
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Slow Down Babe...

"Slow down baby. You running too fast. You got your head in the air when your feet on the gas...." - India.Arie

2nd job's computers went down. I couldn't deal, so I left. I was sure I had my iPod...I got 4 blocks down the road to realize...oop! Nope...

That song came to mind.

Did I mention last week. I worked til 10. Checked my bag. No iPod. Checked job #2. No iPod. Took a cab (!!) across town to the daytime. No iPod. I was panicked! I searched thoroughly and it was in my bag! I went into the train station after figuring a cab home would break the bank. The train came. Awesome! Wait...I got on the one going in the wrong direction. (Bollocks!!) Got off the train. Came home super duper mad at myself!

Needless to say, it was a Thursday and I was EXHAUSTED!

Ummmm...................crazy dude who said I wasn't black enough emailed me today.

"Hey. It was nice speaking with you the other day. When will I hear from you again?"

He's whaaaaaack! He's such a lame.

Firstly, WHY must I call you? I'm not into pursuing the fellas. Let me correct that, I'm not into the CHASE. I chased Afroman for 4 years. What an idiot I was!

I will make it known I'm interested. You let me know you're interested. We'll have a mutual understanding and take it from there. I'll put in effort but the moment I feel like there is no compromising EVER, I'm like no mas!

I don't liked to be chased. If I'm not returning calls/e-mails/texts/smoke signals...ummm, yea.

I said all of that to say...(sorry...had to vent)...he wants me to chase him...which would be OK if he gave me an INCLINATION he even LIKED me and my kind..

*grumble grumble*

I mean...I'm not completely sold that I'm not wasting my time.

Also, he scares me. He was talking about "putting me in my place." How I shouldn't behave a certain way with my man.

Umm..I've been "put in my place" before. It got me a swollen eye, a purple bruise on my arm, and a split lip. No mas!

I was 17 and had more sense than Rihanna apparently.

"Girl, you just be walking into situations. Read the roadsigns! You always want to give people a chance! He don't deserve one!" My twin said.

I guess that was him shaking me...lol

Needless to say, this is what I wrote back:

"I don't think you'll be hearing from me again. I'm not sure there is enough chemistry there. At least, not enough to pursue anything further. "

I guess that was very corporate of me. *smh*

I told Twin about my foot predicament...

"You're pitiful. Your feet hurt in flats. They hurt in heels.

Might as well wear heels and be glamorous..."

The gays! I tell you!

Lmao

"There's no one like you, though, I love your crazy ass..."

And you know this...MAYUN! .


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