i went through the craziest time in my life while having this blog.
i was in love with someone and we were dating but maybe we both weren't ready for it
or perhaps
he wasn't the right one for me
he kind of made it into a love triangle thing.
and ended up leaving me for the other girl.
and he also had a blog too
so, i'm reading my archives
and i have it convinced in my mind now that he really didn't love me
but when i read what we both wrote....
there was actually a lot of love there.
i didn't look into my archives to reminisce on that situation.
but...it was apart of my life.
and its there
i thought he was my soulmate
sometimes.......
shit just doesnt work out
and it sucks
he has 2 kids with this girl and they're still together
maybe i don't believe in soulmates anymore
or maybe i just haven't found mine.
Saturday, August 23, 2014
overachiever
i haven't been wanting to blog but i've been needing it because let's face it...just a human being living life
some shit goes down.
self-reflection is always needed but not always wanted.
oy
anyway...
same old nina.
single.
money-challenged.
still in living in brooklyn.
what's on my mind now?
i wonder if i try too hard with men.
i feel like everyone thinks i have my shit together.
and maybe i do.....compared to the hodge-podge friends i have
i've always had a job. most of my peers started working 5-6 years after i did.
and at a young age, i knew that with money came responsibility
sophomore year of high school...i had a job
2 of my friends didn't and their mothers couldn't afford to buy them some stuff for school
so, i bought them basic shit.
like notebooks, pens, etc
at 14 years old, i felt financially responsible for my friends
and that thinking has stuck with me.
and with men...you don't want them to be financially anything to you.
you don't want them to pay your bills because they'll hold it over your head
you don't want to pay their bills
because they'll feel emasculated or worse...COMFORTABLE and won't do shit.
when i started this blog, i was in love with someone...and he didn't have a job.
i had a decent paying one and i paid for everything we did
i bought him shit.
he left me.
for his ex.
and as soon as he did, he miraculously found a job.
and was doing the shit i wanted him to do with/for me.
that fucks with a woman's head. no?
so, now there's another guy i like.
and he's in an interesting situation.
its nyc.
the rent is too damn high
he's always living paycheck to paycheck.
i took him out for drinks.
the bill was $72.
nyc. this was in fucking BROOKLYN too
and tomorrow, i'm helping to pay for his bed to be taken out of storage
it'll be about $50.
i'm having bff rent a uhaul and drive us to pick up the bed and bring it to his new apt.
because he doesn't really have the money to do it
he's been sleeping on the floor for 3 weeks.
and he won't have the money for maybe another week or 2.
in good conscience, i wouldn't feel good knowing he's on the floor when i could help him
i have a couple extra dollars (space on a credit card)
but should i help him?
i mean,
i really like this guy.
i feel like he could possibly be the one for me
but the timing of it is just...wrong.
what would future me think of this?
when are you just trying too hard?
some shit goes down.
self-reflection is always needed but not always wanted.
oy
anyway...
same old nina.
single.
money-challenged.
still in living in brooklyn.
what's on my mind now?
i wonder if i try too hard with men.
i feel like everyone thinks i have my shit together.
and maybe i do.....compared to the hodge-podge friends i have
i've always had a job. most of my peers started working 5-6 years after i did.
and at a young age, i knew that with money came responsibility
sophomore year of high school...i had a job
2 of my friends didn't and their mothers couldn't afford to buy them some stuff for school
so, i bought them basic shit.
like notebooks, pens, etc
at 14 years old, i felt financially responsible for my friends
and that thinking has stuck with me.
and with men...you don't want them to be financially anything to you.
you don't want them to pay your bills because they'll hold it over your head
you don't want to pay their bills
because they'll feel emasculated or worse...COMFORTABLE and won't do shit.
when i started this blog, i was in love with someone...and he didn't have a job.
i had a decent paying one and i paid for everything we did
i bought him shit.
he left me.
for his ex.
and as soon as he did, he miraculously found a job.
and was doing the shit i wanted him to do with/for me.
that fucks with a woman's head. no?
so, now there's another guy i like.
and he's in an interesting situation.
its nyc.
the rent is too damn high
he's always living paycheck to paycheck.
i took him out for drinks.
the bill was $72.
nyc. this was in fucking BROOKLYN too
and tomorrow, i'm helping to pay for his bed to be taken out of storage
it'll be about $50.
i'm having bff rent a uhaul and drive us to pick up the bed and bring it to his new apt.
because he doesn't really have the money to do it
he's been sleeping on the floor for 3 weeks.
and he won't have the money for maybe another week or 2.
in good conscience, i wouldn't feel good knowing he's on the floor when i could help him
i have a couple extra dollars (space on a credit card)
but should i help him?
i mean,
i really like this guy.
i feel like he could possibly be the one for me
but the timing of it is just...wrong.
what would future me think of this?
when are you just trying too hard?
Monday, April 14, 2014
chasing away the demons
today, i had to pick up my tax info.
i put on a cute outfit and got lost (accidentally) in the wall st area of nyc.
it was kind of magical.
feeling the breeze on my skin and the sun on my face.
i feel myself coming back.
slowly.
surely.
i put on a cute outfit and got lost (accidentally) in the wall st area of nyc.
it was kind of magical.
feeling the breeze on my skin and the sun on my face.
i feel myself coming back.
slowly.
surely.
Saturday, April 12, 2014
long time
it's been a while since i wrote in this space and it seems every time i do, its because of some darkness.
i am sad.
i feel like no one really cares about what's going on with me.
everyone is so consumed with their lives.
going on and on and on
i reach out to my sisters.
they have their own struggles
they don't even ask how i'm doing
they see me as young with a highway of life ahead of me
never ending road.
i told the guy i like in plain english
i am sad and lonely
maybe i should adopt a dog
he said yes, adopt a dog.
no inquiry into why i feel this way.
i am in one of the most populated cities in the world,
and i feel all alone.
Sunday, February 16, 2014
pieces
things are not remotely back to normal but i feel myself fighting my way back to some sort of happiness.
i was having...fun with best i ever had and i asked him what he wants in life as far as a relationship goes.
he didn't say it out right but he would be content to be alone for the rest of his life.
he wouldn't mind having more children but he said he wants no relationship of any kind.
i am not content where things are.
i love his body and how he makes me feel but i want more
not with him
but with someone else
i don't want a piece of anyone else anymore.
with claude i got the piece of the relationship where he took me out.
with carlos, i had the piece that was my rock. my listening ear.
with bieh, i have the sex.
i want all of that rolled into one.
which i know isn't very likely but i want to get it as close as possible.
i'm not content to be in a demi-relationship. i want it all.
i was talking to bieh about a friend s. s was a virgin until she was 28.
one night, she met this dude and decided to give it up.
why? because she was just tired of waiting for the right guy.
so, she settled
dude did a hit and run....on a virgin.
emotional trauma x 10000.
i told her....if you could wait..past high school..past the pressure of college...past the pressure of grad school...why that dude? did he deserve it?
no. he didn't.
i feel like that about my next bf.
i feel like that about claude. he didn't deserve all i did for him.things i didn't blog. so, why that dude?
because i got tired of waiting.
like s, i cheated myself.
i don't want to cheat myself again.
waiting sucks though.
i was at bff's house with my mom looking at her new baby and my goddaughter.
bff told my mom to give me 4 years.
my mom said..maybe nina will never have kids.
she's given up hope.
wtf mom?
anyway, i'm tired and i'm rambling but...
that's where i am.
waiting and hoping for the right guy.
in the meantime, i'm working on myself.
because when that guy comes along, i want to be a whole person
because that's what i want for myself.
i'm tired of picking up broken pieces
shards of a man,
trying to love him.
getting cut in the process.
i was having...fun with best i ever had and i asked him what he wants in life as far as a relationship goes.
he didn't say it out right but he would be content to be alone for the rest of his life.
he wouldn't mind having more children but he said he wants no relationship of any kind.
i am not content where things are.
i love his body and how he makes me feel but i want more
not with him
but with someone else
i don't want a piece of anyone else anymore.
with claude i got the piece of the relationship where he took me out.
with carlos, i had the piece that was my rock. my listening ear.
with bieh, i have the sex.
i want all of that rolled into one.
which i know isn't very likely but i want to get it as close as possible.
i'm not content to be in a demi-relationship. i want it all.
i was talking to bieh about a friend s. s was a virgin until she was 28.
one night, she met this dude and decided to give it up.
why? because she was just tired of waiting for the right guy.
so, she settled
dude did a hit and run....on a virgin.
emotional trauma x 10000.
i told her....if you could wait..past high school..past the pressure of college...past the pressure of grad school...why that dude? did he deserve it?
no. he didn't.
i feel like that about my next bf.
i feel like that about claude. he didn't deserve all i did for him.things i didn't blog. so, why that dude?
because i got tired of waiting.
like s, i cheated myself.
i don't want to cheat myself again.
waiting sucks though.
i was at bff's house with my mom looking at her new baby and my goddaughter.
bff told my mom to give me 4 years.
my mom said..maybe nina will never have kids.
she's given up hope.
wtf mom?
anyway, i'm tired and i'm rambling but...
that's where i am.
waiting and hoping for the right guy.
in the meantime, i'm working on myself.
because when that guy comes along, i want to be a whole person
because that's what i want for myself.
i'm tired of picking up broken pieces
shards of a man,
trying to love him.
getting cut in the process.
Friday, February 7, 2014
otra vez
i was talking to panama guy aka carlos about random things...lately, i felt a bit distant from him. he's being a bit ambitious with 2 start up companies and a regular job so i cut him some slack.
if you're unfamiliar: panama guy and i met online in july. at the time he lived in panama but was on his way back to the us. he moved back in late august. we met in september and things were interesting. we expressed mutual interest but failed to make a complete love connection. he blamed the move: looking for a job, the holidays were crazy and then with his start ups he felt it would be unfair to me if we started dating because he wouldnt be able to give me the attention i deserved. we were friendly. blabbermouth me told him the play by play (not everything but most) about claude. i told him i started dating claude because he put me in the friend zone. he said, i never put you in the friend zone. you're amazing. i would love to date you. this a week before nye. once again, he said, if i date you, i want to be the best man i can be for you. i can't do that right now. (yea, melt melt puddle)
cut to nye. he invited me to his house where his mom and sister LOVED me. me and his mom had a loooong talk about death on nye.yep. death. his sister kept saying how much she wanted me to date him and blah blah blah...it was nice. there was another girl there that his sister kept giving the side eye to. i forget her name but what i remember is that she wore a strapless dress, no stockings and high heeled sandals - like 1 strap across her toes. in NYC on NYE when it was 19degrees outside. something about her felt wrong. i asked him who she was...a childhood friend. i let it be.
if you're unfamiliar: panama guy and i met online in july. at the time he lived in panama but was on his way back to the us. he moved back in late august. we met in september and things were interesting. we expressed mutual interest but failed to make a complete love connection. he blamed the move: looking for a job, the holidays were crazy and then with his start ups he felt it would be unfair to me if we started dating because he wouldnt be able to give me the attention i deserved. we were friendly. blabbermouth me told him the play by play (not everything but most) about claude. i told him i started dating claude because he put me in the friend zone. he said, i never put you in the friend zone. you're amazing. i would love to date you. this a week before nye. once again, he said, if i date you, i want to be the best man i can be for you. i can't do that right now. (yea, melt melt puddle)
cut to nye. he invited me to his house where his mom and sister LOVED me. me and his mom had a loooong talk about death on nye.yep. death. his sister kept saying how much she wanted me to date him and blah blah blah...it was nice. there was another girl there that his sister kept giving the side eye to. i forget her name but what i remember is that she wore a strapless dress, no stockings and high heeled sandals - like 1 strap across her toes. in NYC on NYE when it was 19degrees outside. something about her felt wrong. i asked him who she was...a childhood friend. i let it be.
Tuesday, February 4, 2014
Happy Birthday to Me
I wonder what the number 11 means.
I got in on 3 scratch offs that I didnt win on.
I gave it to a dollar cab which costs $2 and I gave him a $10 bill and $1, in which he didn't correct me.
Fucker.
I spent my entire birthday in tears. Save for the 2 hours I spent with mom and 3 hours I spent with Best I Ever Had.
To get everyone up to speed. Claude broke up with me via text a week ago
After I went all out for his birthday
And bought him a Christmas gift.
In which I received a limp dick as thank you.
And promise of "something big" as a gift.
He couldn't even pick up the phone.
Or take me out to dinner.
He said. "I've been shitty to you. I know it sounds pathetic but can we be friends?"
I didn't respond.
No one did anything special for me.
Well, my sister sent me $100 gift card for Amazon. That was nice.
But....I don't exactly feel loved.
I don't feel like I'm remotely in a place I want to be.
I'm technically jobless (more on that later).
I have no man.
No kids.
My apartment still sucks enough where I don't invite people over.
Even last year, when I was in Paris, the stranger I was staying with bought me champagne and cheese and caviar.
This year, I had IHOP and that's it. Basically.
Oh and great sex which basically after, I still wanted to go to his bathroom and cry.
2 of my friends didn't even call or message me. That's awesome.
I kept fantasizing about walking in front of a bus.
I keep fantasizing about walking in front of a train for the past 2 weeks.
I don't know what keeps me fighting.
Deep down, I still have hope some
where inside of me.
Things will get better. It won't always be like this, I keep telling myself.
I don't know how much of this I believe.
I got in on 3 scratch offs that I didnt win on.
I gave it to a dollar cab which costs $2 and I gave him a $10 bill and $1, in which he didn't correct me.
Fucker.
I spent my entire birthday in tears. Save for the 2 hours I spent with mom and 3 hours I spent with Best I Ever Had.
To get everyone up to speed. Claude broke up with me via text a week ago
After I went all out for his birthday
And bought him a Christmas gift.
In which I received a limp dick as thank you.
And promise of "something big" as a gift.
He couldn't even pick up the phone.
Or take me out to dinner.
He said. "I've been shitty to you. I know it sounds pathetic but can we be friends?"
I didn't respond.
No one did anything special for me.
Well, my sister sent me $100 gift card for Amazon. That was nice.
But....I don't exactly feel loved.
I don't feel like I'm remotely in a place I want to be.
I'm technically jobless (more on that later).
I have no man.
No kids.
My apartment still sucks enough where I don't invite people over.
Even last year, when I was in Paris, the stranger I was staying with bought me champagne and cheese and caviar.
This year, I had IHOP and that's it. Basically.
Oh and great sex which basically after, I still wanted to go to his bathroom and cry.
2 of my friends didn't even call or message me. That's awesome.
I kept fantasizing about walking in front of a bus.
I keep fantasizing about walking in front of a train for the past 2 weeks.
I don't know what keeps me fighting.
Deep down, I still have hope some
where inside of me.
Things will get better. It won't always be like this, I keep telling myself.
I don't know how much of this I believe.
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