Sunday, January 20, 2008

A Monkey in a Cynic's Suit

When did I start to think all men were full of shit?
If not all, then 65%? When did I think words like beautiful were words
only uttered when something was at stake? When did I start making others
pay for the sins of the last man? Me? The eternal optimist when it came
to relationships?

He left me a message asking for a chance to get to know me.

I didn't respond and I'm not entirely sure why.

He left another message asking again and requesting that I respond even
if I weren't interested.

I consulted Twin.
I needed my behavior validated.

I wanted something from this man. Maybe more bells and whistles.

Twin called me an asshole.

The assessment was correct. I had no good reasons for requesting
anything more than simplicity. Under normal circumstances, ifanything
more than that had ocurred, I would've called it fake.

I responded.
We exchanged im info.
We chatted on aim

I was being a dick.
He soldiered on.
He wore me down with his non-verbal insistence that he's a good guy.

He's honest.

He's nice.

We'll see.....


The Breaking Point said...

I really appreciate your honesty and wish that more women would admit to being a dick for no good reason. That doesn't say that you "shouldn't" be a dick, mind you. Do what works for you and all that jazz.

But for single women who do this, I really wonder what they think is supposed to happen. 'Cos I know I'm not soldiering on in the event that a woman gives me the impression that she's not trying to hear me.

I express my interest once and once only. After that, she needs to let me know something and act accordingly. If not ... one.

TrinaBeingTrina said...

I feel your pain. I know I've been an asshole quite a few times. My motto is trust no one. What makes it so bad is I don't even have a reason to feel that way. I have not had bad experiences. I have just seen the things that others have gone through and I want to learn from their mistakes.

Nina said...

Alas, LH, this fantasy of us being together in the romantic blogosphere will never come true. I'm fickle. I'm oblivious most of the time. Most of all, I'm cautious. Ego has to check in with id and superego to make sure this move is legit. And.....I've been propositioned on the street, made to think someone wanted a platonic relationship and a long-term relationship when they really just wanted the skins. So, yes, I play my cards close to the chest.

But, I think I was annoyed at something else and he got the brunt of that pent-up frustration.

If he's lucky, he feel the brunt of a different kind of frustration...;-)

tAnYeTTa said...

in the voice of the little old lady on the train in coming to america---"take a chance honey!!" :)